How do I get more of what I want in life?

How do I get more of what I want in life?All right, Tyler, before before we get into that, uh you wanted to talk aboutsomething. I I wanted to talk about something. Yeah. Radiant Dawn.Oh, yeah, man. Um we fin we finally got our website live. We’ve we’ve taken a year off because you and Igot busy with a whole bunch of other projects. So, we didn’t do our women’s retreat like we normally do last year. So this year we’re bringing it back. Weactually have the date set, the location um already taken care of and we areready to go with Radiant Dawn again this year. I’m so excited about it, Brandon. We’re going to be doing it down in Hurricane Utah, which is down at thevery tip of Utah, almost on the Arizona border. And it’s going to be incredible. It’sFebruary 26th through March 1st. And um we would love to see you there. It’s uhI yeah I can’t even like we talk about Rising Sun how much we love it. RadiantDawn is just I it has a special place in my heart and if you’re thinking aboutlike why would I go to a women’s retreat run by a bunch of men um I I do got to say umour staff of women are incredible and don’t worry it’s not just me and Tyler.Thank goodness. It actually seems to be a really good combination. I think if you go to the website radiantdon.org, you’ll seethere’s a whole bunch of different uh video testimonial, written testimonials.Um but it’s it’s just incredible and I just think of like just having put thisback on the calendar, Brandon, and now we’re talking about it just brings a smile to my face of years past. certain memories just like pop into my mind oflike just certain things that have happened and incredible things that have happened for some of the some of the women thathave come and uh just true true miracles. Yeah. And uh and where we doit is just amazing. If if you haven’t been to southern Utah, um this is thisis a great opportunity to come because it’s awesome. It’s beautiful. It’s uh hopefully the weather’s good. Should bedecent. that we’ll see. Yep. You never know. So, um Tyler, I have a review that I want to share before wedive in here. So, it says, “The Therapy Brothers and your callers have been oncountless hikes with me. The Wandering Airator.” Shout out to the Wandering Airator.Which, by the way, every time I hear that name, I think of you. Um do you know why he did it that way?That’s exactly why he does like he has a side business where he airates people’s lawns. And he knew that I called myselfthe wandering therapist. So he was making fun of me when he named himself the wandering airatorwhich and I have I have airrated many many lawns with you. So it hits both thewandering airator. Um but he says with the mindfulness put into each episode while walking the theitems that are shared um from you goes without saying as far as helping me inmy journey in life. Thank you to each one of your callers that have shared andtouched me personally in my own recovery journey. This podcast has been well traveled through the mountains and I cansay you guys are right there with me. Thank you for coming along for my journey and helping me heal and see thesun come up every day. Go climb your mountain and live in love. I love it.Yeah. Thank you so much for the review and for the shout out to our callers, too. Again, that’s probably what makes ourshow as good as it is on the good ones is the callers that call in and share their real stories.Absolutely. Um, and yeah, I’m I’m glad he mentioned the callers, but also justto hear from from him is awesome. So, you can never get too much wandering airator in your life. No, no, I mentioned him on an episoderecently. I just spent a night kind of hanging out with him. So, yeah, he was open man the base fire atour at our signal fire. Yeah, he’s awesome. I think he got you addicted to energy drinks though. Sohe That’s the one bane of my existence. Yeah, totally 100%.Now he should get Now he should get you addicted to chocolate milk.That’s what he does now. Chocolate milk’s better than energy drinks. He moved from energy drinks to milk in terms of what he does for business. AndI would say that’s definitely a step up. The problem is is I’m still going through withdrawals now. Yeah, man. Just just taper it off atthat time. I had never I had never had an energy drink. I had one energy drink my entire life. And then he came in andbrought a 12-pack cuz that’s what he did for a living is he worked for an energy drink company. He brought a 12-pack to group one day and it happened to be aday where I just got my butt kicked. I’m dead tired. And I’m like, “All right, I’ll try one of these things.” So, Islam an energy drink and then for some reason, shocker, I was amped in group and the guys all just like, “Whoa, whatwas what got into Tyler today?” Like, “Holy cow.” So every week after that, he started bringing energy drinks and likepedaling and me like, “Hey, drink another one. Drink another one.” So, hey, hey, remember our episode back inthe day we got in trouble for? Mountain Dew porn and video games. Why do men love porn, video games, andMountain Dew? Yeah, that that’s like one of the very few episodes where we got a negative review out of that. Even though I thinkthat was one of our best episodes. Now, knowing you, Tyler, it’s I’ve seen you go through Starcraft, energy,drinks, and porn and porn. I’ve I’ve been through for free. I’m speaking from experience now. Here you are. Yeah. You’ve hit him.You’ve hit the trifecta.And he’s in recovery now. Thanks to chocolate milk. Now he’s going to bring me down to chocolate milk.Perfect. Yeah, that’s perfect. Good protein in that. Great example to our listeners or callers.Um, anyways, let’s shift gears a little bit past Tyler’s addictions here. We cantalk about my addictions next week. Um,so Tyler, we we wanted to um dive into atopic that’s actually I I think it’s pretty awesome and important. I thinkit’s kind of been I don’t know the word um overdone alittle bit or or misconstrued in some ways. Um, so maybe we can talk aboutthat. But going into the new year, we want to talk about how you create in your life and how you manifest what youwant. Um, and and take a hard look a at ourselves as to what we are creating inour life and what we are manifesting and why we’re we’re creating what we we we create. Um, so we’re going to break downwhat manifesting is. um really talk about shifting your energy uh resonatingin a way in which you’ll attract uh certain things into your life and umyeah break that down. So Tyler, where do you want to start? Yeah. Well, I think we should start with the definition. I would I’ll just saythis that we almost should have titled this even though it would make a lot of people upset it something like whetheryou like it or not, you’re getting exactly what you deserve in life. Yeah. Um,and uh, and that’s the idea is like another way of flipping that around is we want people to leave this episodefeeling empowered to realize that you have power to actually make real changein your life um, through the power of accountability and responsibility andwe’re going to talk about some of the ways of helping to facilitate real shift and change in your life.Yeah. Yeah. I think I think that what you just said about you’re getting exactly what you deserve. Um that worddeserve I could really get into. Um yeah, I know that’s like a hot a hot word. I know. I know when I said that.But but I think I think there’s a flip side to what you’re saying if you cannot take offense to what what Tyler said,which is you have power to create. And um even ifyou were stuck in a pit, if you were thrown in a concentration camp, you canstill create internally and resonate internally and and feel and um we alwayshave power to to create and to create peace, happiness, love, joy, sadness,depression, shame. Um that’s within all of us. That’s right. And we’re going to talktoday that word manifest. You know, like you said, it’s probably overdone. Think of that as interchangeable withwhat you just said, Brandon, as the power to create. Yeah, that’s really what we want to bethinking about when we use the word manifest. But let’s start with a definition and then maybe we can work work through some ways to strengthen umthis idea of manifesting in your world or the power to create in your life. Yeah.So, um here’s the definition that we’re going to go off of today. You know, you guys can all have your own, butmanifesting means to bring your desires into reality through focused thoughts, beliefs, actions, essentially using thepower of your mind and emotions to attract or create desired outcomes like success, health, or relationships.Can with that definition, Tyler, can we what I’d like to do is take a step back.So e everything that you just said that definition is kind kind of talks aboutthe future. It talks about what we can create. Um but the reality is all of usare already doing what you just said. So could you read that one more time? To bring your desires into reality throughfocused thoughts, beliefs and actions. essentially using the power of your mind and emotions to attract or createdesired outcomes like success, health or relationships. Right? So, so what I’m saying is as yousit today, when you look at your problems in your life, when you think about uh the outcomes of your life,positive and negative, you are creating. And I think it takes some real extremeownership and accountability to stop and get conscious of that. Um, and it takessome humility to to stop and be like, “Okay, the things in my life I I could that Idon’t like, I could I could just play a victim and not be conscious and blameand stay stuck.” Yeah. I think I think what you just saidis important as a starting point that most of us sit here, especially kind of at the new year or whatever where we’re like, hey, I need to start making allthese big changes in my life. I’m going to set some New Year’s resolutions or whatever. Um,I’m going to go do something different. And what you’re saying is is we actually need to start at the place where we cansay, I’m already creating. Yeah. Yeah, like I as a default we ashuman beings can’t help but be in the process of creation whether we’re conscious of it or not.So really what we’re doing is starting at a place where what is it that I am creating already? Maybe what is it that I’m creating that I already appreciateand want but also and this this goes right into our coursework in the healing journey too of what are the fruits of mylife that I keep harvesting that I don’t want anymore, right? Like I don’t I don’t want to be out ofshape. I don’t want to be like, you know, financially friendships andlevels of intimacy and like, yeah, there’s certain things that it’s like, but but yet I keep doing that. I keepcreating that. Somehow I feel like I’m getting that or the world’s bringing that to me over and over again when in reality there may besome things that if I were to actually understand that I’m a creator, I might be helping to create the very thingsthat I don’t want in my life right now. Right. Right. How is it, Tyler, that like you take some business guys andit’s like, you know, idea after idea that just hits just like it’s like theyhave the mightest touch and then then you take other guys where it’s the opposite. They fail and theyfail and they fail again and again and again and again. Um, what Imean, why is that? Yeah. It might not even be about the quality of the ideas so much as theenergy with which it’s treated and and the intention and desires that and and work that go into it as well.Let listen to what you said the energy the intention um that’s what we’re unconscious of uh alot of times is is that we just look at the outcomes we just look at what we desire. We we try to getthose things but how are we coming to the table? Um, have you ever have youever Brandon, this is one that’s coming to my mind right now, probably just because I I just had an experience withthis a couple days ago, but have you ever like been around somebody that youjust can feel from them that they are just so desperate for you to like them? Yeah. that that it almost like like I’mthis just happened a few days ago where we were interacting with somebody that way and it was me and my wife togetherand afterwards my wife was the one who was like oh man like they want you tolike them so bad and I was like I could feel that too. Um it felt almostdesperate and uh and and she said it kind of makes me not want toYeah. You don’t want to get too close to them because they’ll smother you and like so they create what?Yeah. So, so then the very thing that they’re trying to avoid is actuallybeing invited into their life because of the energy with which they’re approaching things.Right? So they’re like, “Oh man, I’m so afraid of being abandoned and not being liked and not being good enough that I’m going to go and I’m gonna I’m gonnaspread that energy all around and and then I’m going to be like, whydoes nobody ever want to hang out with me?” And it’s because deep down that person believes that nobody wants to hang outwith me. Yeah. They’re actually they’re actually manifesting that in their life. They’re actually creating that in their life,but they can’t. But a lot of times people don’t even have the awareness to realize that they’re the ones who are helping to facilitate the same outcomethey don’t want. Well, the the the thing about it is Tyler, and this is where the unconsciousness comes in, is if I letlet’s take this example. If I feel like nobody nobody wants to be my friend. Um,and so I go show up trying to get people to be my friend. I could look at thatand say that’s the work that I’m doing to try to overcome that that feeling. But but the fact of the matter is is yougot to stop and pause and and recognize how are you resonating? Like what is the energy and why? And this is why traumawork is so important because you need to go you need to go deal with the deep uhdemons here. Um relinquish them and recognize thatyou’re okay and then you’ll automatically start to to show updifferently. Um I’ve been through this process myself, Tyler. Yeah, I think we all are on some level.Yeah. I mean, I I didn’t believe people wanted to be my friend. Um, growing up, you knew me. I was kind of uh shy. I wasdidn’t put myself out there. And um I I just desperately wantedfriends and um but I didn’t believe that I was really that lovable.And so I so instead of like going to try to overcompensate, I shut down and Ijust didn’t put myself out there. And what do you know? Like notnot like being outgoing and connecting to people didn’t get me a bunch of friends. Yeah. Like being staying in your bedroomand hiding hiding in a cave. Listening to Gar Brooks all day. Yeah. Didn’t didn’t get me a bunch of friends,you know. Thank goodness for G. Got me through. G actually probably helped you make friends, too.He actually did. Yeah. Um, but but let’s throw Gar in here because I’mlistening to songs like, you know, standing outside the fire and just kind of put yourself out there and go for it.And so I’m listening to G lonely in my bedroom and I’m realizing like, hey,hey, it’s time to face the fear. It’s uh it’s time to deal with this and andunderstand that you are okay and people might not like you. And and as I realized that like deep down I realizedthat um I actually had some rejection. I had some friends that didn’t like me or want to be my friends or whatever. Butthat was okay. And I and I connected to great people and I created friendshipsand um to this day my best friends are from high school and college. You got great connections.Yeah. If not for standing outside the fire in the river, you might still be in yourbedroom. Um I want to give another example of ofmanifesting here and just the the energy the the the resonating. So umyou know Russell, our good friend Russell. So his son Carter is also my good friendand he’s he’s awesome. He’s just he’s just he’s just good energy. Like so hegets he gets married, he has two kids and he’s just like he just believes hebelieves that he’s going to be successful and it’s I’m watching him. He’s he’s young and he’s just startingout in his career and he started this pretzel company um and he got into thestadium and they started making these pretzels and he just believed that it was going to work and worked his buttoff because he believed it was going to work. work his butt off and they like broke records in with their sales andnow he’s like getting into other stadiums and he’s doing well and this company came to him and was like, “Hey,uh, we don’t really want to run our company. We’ll give you like a bunch of equity in it if you want to run itbecause he’s running that well, like the the pretzel thing.” So this other company’s coming around like, “Hey,we’ll give you equity in our company.” And so it’s starting to kind of snowball and go all because of what?Well, because because the authentic belief leads to all of the other things thatlead to the outcomes. Yeah. So, it’s it’s it’s just like automatic. It just starts to attract.It’s it it attracts itself in and starts to create. Um like the hard work willhappen when you believe. It will start to take place because you know that it’sgoing to happen. And so you start to believe and you start to create. Yeah. I I remember this is a smallerversion of this, but my oldest daughter in high school, she was playing sportsand she played soccer, but halfway through the soccer season, she kind of wanted to take on cross country as afreshman, but cross country and soccer overlap with each other. So she went to the cross country coaches and said, “Hey, I want to try this. Can I run in acouple races?” And they said, “Well, you you have to run in like two races to be able to qualify for, you know, regionand state, but yeah, you could come try it and see what you think.” And we didn’t know any better. She didn’t knowany better. And we just said, “Go out there and win the race.” First raceever, cross country, freshman, she wins. And then she wins. And then she wins.And then she ends up at region and she wins. And then she goes to state. And atstate is where she finally lost her first race. Even though she took like seventh in the state,never having run cross country before. She didn’t know any different other thanyou run the race to win. Yeah. And it was only after she finally lost a couple of times and then the pressurecame on because she was like this freshman phenom that the pressure started to buckle her and all those.a new belief system starts to come in and the pressure and all of that other stuff and but it was justthe belief and here’s here’s the thing that I think people mess up with like manifestation a little bit Brandon isthey hear this stuff on TV what are you manifesting just if you just think itthen all of a sudden it’ll happen secret Tyler but but I think what you’re getting at here is the the combination of when Iactually start to feel and believe something I can’t help but take actiontowards it too. Yeah. So, so my my efforts, my work linesitself up with the belief. So, it’s not just sit at home and think about it. It’s man, when I start thinking andbelieving and feeling what that’s going to be like I naturally like the bodystarts to follow, the decision tree starts to follow. It’s the effort and the energy starts to move itself in thatsame direction. So then I’m pairing up belief, feeling, energy with righteffort. And then that’s what starts to produce these really cool outcomes. Can I I want to give a a stupid example, butjust to illustrate your point here because yeah, you’re you’re definitely describing it. Um let’s say I believedthat I was the greatest doughnut maker ever. Like I just knew how to makedonuts and and I was passionate about donuts and I was the doughnut guy. Like I God created you to make donuts.I just could make donuts, right? Yeah. So because I knew that’s who I was, I uhI I let’s say I worked a a job wherever and I saved up money and I got my bakerybecause I knew I needed to get a bakery because I was the doughnut guy. So, likeI I skimped, I saved, I got there, and I got this bakery. And then I started tolook at the ingredients of my doughnut. And I got to this point where it was like there was one type of flour thatwas good enough that that was cheaper and there was another type of flour thatwas awesome, but a little more expensive, right? Um, so the ingredients in my doughnut,I’m looking at this and I’m thinking, well, if am I am I the world’s greatgreatest doughnut man or not? Am I the world’s richest doughnut maker or the world’s best doughnut maker?Right? Am I am I like trying to make uh just money this way? Or am I the world’sgreatest doughnut maker? Well, what’s the world’s greatest doughnut maker going to go with? the mediocre flour orthe He’s He’s got the passion to go find a way to make it work with the best ingredients. I’m gonna go with the I’m gonna figureit out and it’s gonna like it’s going to take care of itself. I’m gonna have the best ingredients, right? And as I’mgetting the best ingredients, I got this bakery going and like I’m starting to formulate this thing and people starttalking. They’re like, “Oh, Brandon the doughnut man.” He’s like creating something in there. And so then I haveother doughnut man from the the town next door and he calls me up and he’s like, “Dude, I heard you’re doing something like I got to talk to youbecause I got this idea and we got we get talking and now I’m connecting toanother great doughnut man because I’m a great doughnut man and we’re working together and we’re brainstorming andwe’re creating something together and he came into my life.” Why?because because your passion to be the best doughnut man attracted him into that space. I didn’t even know him, but people gettalking and he calls me and now he’s got this great jelly that he puts in the donuts and he’s like, “Dude, let’s cometogether because we can create this together.” Like, holy crap, right? And we’re all excited and we’re biting intothis like crispy soft just just the bestdoughnut ever, right? And that attracted itself into my life.Some guys catch all the breaks. Some guys just catch all the breaks. That that’s that’s what the guy who whodoes who’s creating less than his um level says.Man, some lucky guys. That lucky guy had the jelly guy call him. He didn’t jelly guy didn’t call me.He didn’t call me. He called him. Well, of course he called him because he hisenergy goes out into the universe. It and I let me get a little out there herebecause it’s true. His energy goes out into the universe and it finds likeenergy and it pulls it back in and then it creates with it for good or bad. Um,and that’s that’s what manifesting is. And so when you when I when I talk about extreme ownership to take to stop, takea step back, if you’re creating things that aren’t awesome, you’re sending energy out there that’s pulling theenergy back in. And instead of trying harder not to do that, what you need todo is stop and recognize that you are doing that and ask yourself why.Where’s that coming from? And there’s probably fear. There’s probably shame. your protective partsare keeping you stuck in that place because you’re hedging against things and it’s not allowing you to fullychange the way that you’re resonating. Right. And there’s different ways that you can shift your energy 100%. I I justhad this experience with one of my clients just a couple probably about a month and a half ago. I was watchingthis person just kind of cycle through the same thing over and over again. Andin this case, it was being stuck and trapped in a relationship. And I kept like trying to think likewhat why can’t they see that they’re part of the creation of this cycle thatthey’re in and they don’t want to break it, you know? And finally, I paused and I said, “Would you do an exercise with me just for a second and I I sat themdown on the couch. I got them into kind of some deep breathing, meditative state. And then I just did a visualization where I actually had themremove first I had them remove the person that they were in arelationship with out of the picture completely. And then I said now let’s visualize whatdoes your life look like here? What does your life look like here? What does your life look like here? What does your life look like here? With that other personout of the out of the picture. And we got done with the exercise and something you could almost feel it inside theroom. My client opened her eyes and she was like,”My life is awesome.” Like, “My life is so good. I’m able tocreate things. I’m able to go pursue my passions. I’m able to go and have relationships with different people that I’ve sacrificed for too long. I haveself-confidence. I have. She listed off like 15 things. And I was like,with one change, with one change, all of those other outcomes are going to start to happen.And you could feel it. She was like, she caught the vision in that moment. And every and every therapy session sincethen has been her actions towards her new life, which eventually in this case,I’m not saying it’s always the right thing, eventually meant she was going to let go ofone thing, the relationship that was actually really harmful to her and nowshe’s moving and stepping into this whole new life that she can feel is tangible at her fingers now that sheotherwise couldn’t see before. Yep. I I I love that story. I I uhand I want to talk about something specific about that story. Umbut before I do, I want to give another one more example. Um just our our goodbuddy Kimmo. Um so Kimmo started Moettas. So go toMoetta for lunch today for KMO. Oh, I love Moettas. Yeah, he’s love Kimmo, too. Kimmo is my main man. I love I love theguy. I haven’t talked to him um in a little while. I need to reach out to him. But uh he was my friend over inHawaii when I was going to school. And he was driving bus. He was my age. He’slike 46 years old. And um he’s he’s like, “Look, I’m going to start a business. Like, I’m going tostart this business.” 46 years old. Think about it, Tyler. 46 years old, he’s driving bus. He’s grinding throughraising four kids. Just like life’s expensive in Hawaii. Umand every time I’d go over to his house or talk to him, he was either reading abusiness book or he was listening to a podcast. And the podcasts were alwaysabout like entrepreneurship and creation and what you’re going to do and you know and I I saw this like shift in him fromthinking that I was just this guy that was going to grind through life to like I’m I’m an entrepreneur. I’m a creator.So he’s he’s literally driving bus at the time and and we start going to lunch and he’slike talking about like, well, I think I’m gonna do this or I’m gonna do that or this is how this goes and and and Icould feel from him his energy of like it got me thinking like I got to start my business. Like whoa, what? This iscrazy. Like because he just knew. He believed it. And I remember going to hisfirst store. He moved from Hawaii to Bountiful and going to his first store and I was eating his steak and I waslike, “That’s this pretty good.” Um, and he he came out, we were talking and he’s like, “Oh yeah, I got these plans forexpansion. I’m doing this. I’m doing that. I’m blah blah blah.” And I’m like, “Holy cow, like dang, there’s a lotgoing on inside of him.” Um, and now you come to Utah, you go to like almost anystrip mall or whatever. And what’s in there? Just in Logan, Utah, there’s two of them. Moettas, right?Yeah. Um, how did he shift? How did he do that? Um,he he he started he started to change the inputs in his life. I think I think part of this was theinvestment he made in himself overall over all that time you’re talking about, Brandon.Like he didn’t he didn’t listen to the just the true crime podcast all day. Hewas like invested in learning, growing and and surrounding himself around likeenergy. He was listening to these people who had created um and so he was he was being fed bytheir energy. He was being baptized in the creation, right? Energy. So I want to come back to your example,Tyler, of this woman who got rid of her bad relationship or or vision getting rid of that bad relationship. I think aquestion that we don’t ask oursel enough and you brought this up earlier when we were talking is not what do I want tocreate. It’s what inputs in my life are actually in the way of what I want to create.What things are dragging my energy down um and and making it so that I’m notmanifesting what I want. And that’s a hard question to ask because it’s hardto cut out certain things. It’s hard to it’s a hard question to ask. Partly because we’re not conscious, partlybecause we don’t want to be conscious, and partly because when we finally start to understand what is dragging us down,there will be real sacrifice and actual pain to let it go. Yeah. Whether whether that’s the thethird Mountain Dew that you’re drinking that day or that relationship with that old college buddy who’s just a user anddepressed and pulls from you and drags you down. Um yeah, there’s real loss. Like you thinkabout it and it could be like ask yourselves if you’re listening to this right now and you’re looking at some of those fruits or you’re having somethings turn in you right now. You’ll have something rise to the surface when I ask this question. But what is one ofthe things in your life right now that if it was gone would create more space for what you really want? It might be abelief. It might be a behavior. It might be a pattern. It might be ahabit. It might be I mean you guys think about this and this will sting for most people because we’re all addicted. Butwhat would it be? What would what would this month look like if you got rid of your social media?Or if you cut out that 45 minutes of scrolling first thing in the morning. Yeah. Yeah. Or if you or if you actuallydecided to let go of that friend that’s always dragging you down because he talks you into going drinking with you on the weekendsor or you replaced lunch with a really healthy high protein high good fiberlunch and not like pounded down the heavy um high sugar food. That sounds and thatfor me, Brandon, would sound horrible unless my energy had shifted intobelieving that I’m the person who takes care of myself. Well, because I’m creating something. So, I need energy in the afternoon. So,I’m going to eat this good, healthy lunch because I’m going to create this thing. I’m I’m sacrificing for the sake ofcreation rather than, oh, I’m being punished because I have to give up X, Y, and Z. The thing about it is Tyler, itdoesn’t even feel like sacrifice when you’re resonating in that place. It’s like, no, it’s just automatic. This iswhat I do. This is what I have to do. This is not sacrifice. I just do. UmYeah. And I think at first it can be a littleuncomfortable because you go through withdrawals with all the things we just went through. Um,but as you go through those withdrawals, you realize like I’m doing this because I’m creating something new in my life.So that that last show that you watch late at night when when you could get an extra hour of sleep.So it’s not fun to to to get rid of things, to cut things out. But I thinkthat’s one of the first steps is to to look at your life and say, “Okay, how can I engineer my life here to actuallycreate this thing that I want um rather than just focus on creating this thing that I want but not change anything theinputs in my life.” A good first step would be to just sit and do some inventory. You know, whatare what are the things in my life that no longer serve me or the life I want to create? And then and and and even Iwould I’d recommend somebody getting a list like some kind of a journal thing and put down what are when we saythings, put down beliefs, put down behaviors, put down relationships, putdown habits. Um and and then let your mind just kind ofturn on those for a minute and see like this happened to me Brandon. We were at the signal fire a couple week just lastweek when Chase was introducing the whole event. He was talking about this being a night of introspection. And oneof the things he suggested is that we ponder on what are the things that not onlyintentions for this coming year, but what are the things that we might be ready to let go of that we’ve beencarrying for too long. And I was thinking he meant that in forms of resentments towards other people or myshame or something else, which could have all been that. But for some reason, my mind as I sat there and pondered onthe top of a mountain freezing my butt off, it started to come to likeMan, I need to give up some of my media patterns. They’re they’re they’re sapping the lifeout of the life I want to create a little at a time. Just enough that I don’t really recognize it most of thetime, but but they do. And it’s like, okay, now that I understand that, I know that, I have achoice. I’m in an inflection point. It’s like, do I want the life that’s up ahead or the one I’m leaving behind?Yeah. Because that choice, my life, this sounds so so overdramatic. My lifedepends on that decision. Well, the and Tyler, I think you got tobe careful a little bit with and take media or whatever it is. Um, when youget rid of that because you know who you are and you know what you’re creating, then you’re shifting you’re shifting theenergy. When you get rid of that because you’re in a lot of shame and you tell yourself you’re failing and so I betterchange this thing because, you know, I’m I’m just a piece of crap that needs to change this thing. You’re actually notdoing anything. You’re just you’re actually fueling the same wrong energy. Yeah. You’re going to go right back tosomething else. And oh, maybe you’ll white knuckle for a while. And do yousee the difference there? Yeah. 100%. You get clear with your intention. You know what you want to create. andnaturally you get rid of the inputs that don’t work for you and with that and umthen you go create it. Uh versus using shame to try to make things better.Um and that goes with everything whether it’s media or food or porn or whateverit is. Um, so would it be all right, Brandon, if Ijust listed a few, we’re getting close on time, but I’ve listed a few kind of tangible kind of practices that reinforce thisidea of creation. Yeah, please. Um, goes along with what you’re saying right now because you can’t it’s it’sone thing to just stop something, it’s another thing to know why. And, um, sohere’s a couple of things. If you’re interested in some of these practices, you’ll notice there’s kind of a themeacross them. The first one is visualization. Um, you can the the brain is a reallypowerful tool that you can create something in your brain and your braincan act as if it’s true even if it’s not there yet.So I can I can this is something that like Joe Despensza talks about a lot, but I can wake up first thing in themorning and I can envision what it’s like to be fully healthy in my body or to be fully successful at my work or beand if I can go there and feel the truth of that, I’m already reinforcing thatit’s possible and I’m starting to I’m starting my day from a new starting point, a new energy level. Um, secondone is affirmations. Affirmations are the positive beliefsthat we reinforce over and over again. You think about how we how we got our negative beliefs planted in us. Theycame through repetition and emotional and and and powerful emotional experiences. The same can be true withpositive beliefs. Repetition and powerful emotional experiences together. Um the third one is gratitude. Thepractice of gratitude. And that’s what’s so funny, Brandon, when you’re talking about guys like chemo or some of the other people that we think about. It’slike that almost comes part and parcel with most of the people that I know who seem to be practicing this kind ofthis energy of creation is there’s always gratitude. It’s like even when you called me when COVID hit Brandon andI was like panicking like what’s going to happen to my business? Like no one can come in for therapy anymore and you’re like dude this is awesome. Likeoh man no traffic. There’s so many opportunities now here. I’m like what the heck? Like you’re justseeing it so differently with gratitude. Um, then comes the aligned action. So,the effort still matters, but now I’m putting in the effort because that’s just what I do, because that’s who I am.Because that’s the energy I’m living from, rather than like the compulsory part you’re talking about. But it butyou still have to have it. Yeah. And uh and then the last one, and this is an interesting one, in all ofthat, this is almost like a paradox, but then letting go, meaning surrendering the things that are outside of mycontrol today, trusting the process, and allowing yourself to be a work inprogress rather than needing to be the finished product today. Yep. Yep.And uh those things can all kind of work together for our good towards this idea of creating. And you know, I think bothof us could probably tell our own personal stories of like I never thought I could have done blank. And then if Igo and I backtrack how I got there, it’s like, well, I was here, but then I ended uphere, but then this guy, I met this guy, but then this happened, but then this happened. And it was all being in thatspace doing these things that led to the the outcome that we that we really loved or appreciated. Tyler, I’m um I I haveto admit something to you that uh you’ll probably give me crap for um goingforward. Um I got to confess something. Oh, no. I I’m afraid I’m always afraidof your confessions, Brandon. I never know what’s quite going to come out of your mouth. I’ve over the week I’ve become a swifty.Oh, now now beforeI’m going to suspend my judgment. I’m going to specific judgement. You need to go watch the documentary onNetflix or whatever. I don’t know if I can get myself to do that. Yeah, she it’s inspiring. Umlover or hater for different reasons. Um but you watch it and you see a personmanifesting like um just and that’s all that is. Like if you if you have that inyour mind and you watch that um it’s incredible and it’s incredible what shecreates and that’s why she has so many fans. Um she everything that you justlisted it she does and she knows exactly what she’s doing and she knows who sheis. She knows her talent. She can like jam on the guitar, the piano, the and and she starts to put it together andyou can see this whole thing start to attract itself together and get createdto the point where she’s standing in the middle of a stadium with lights and I mean all the energy and all the creationjust like boom right there. Um and it’s you got to give it to her likeincredible. My wife turned it on. Uh but yeah,but I sat and I watched and and as I was watching I was like, whoa. Like shebelieves and she knows and she’s creating this thing. Umso we’ll use Taylor Swift as a good example, too.You never cease to amaze me, Brandon. I’m a Swifty. Hey, so yeah. Um yeah,I knew you were trouble when you walked in.I always I think there’s I think there’s a song I only really know like the one lyric, but I sing it to my daughters allthe time when they’re mad at me or like when my wife’s like mad at me and I give me a little bit of a hard time and it’s like I think there’s a lyric in therethat’s like you need to calm down. I’m sure they love that. I’m sure I go Igo Taylor Swift on them just just as a weapon to get them to back off on me. I’m sure they love that. Yeah, they do. They love it. They loveit. Yeah. So, um, yeah, u, you know, Brandon, good good topic today. Um, ifyou’re sitting there right now thinking about these things and there’s some things stirring in you, even if they’re not fully comfortable, pause for aminute and ask yourself if there’s any truth to this here. Ask yourself if you could put yourself into an experiment ofsome of these things that we’ve talked about and plant the seed and see where it goes. You might you might not want to admitthat you’re powerful and that you can create because there’s uh it’svulnerable. It’s vulnerable to know know how amazing you are and how powerful you are. There’s a level of responsibility tothat as well. But you are but you and all of us are. Andif if you’re playing small and not getting what you want out of your life, shift it. You you got one life to live.Um, so go create uh beautiful things that you want because you can.Amen. Thank you for being here with us. Hopefully this is helpful to you. Untilnext time, keep on keeping on.