Can My Happiness Really Be Just As Simple As Changing My Beliefs?

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I It’s beyond therapy, the best healing experiences that you can have. Click the link below and comejoin us. Can my happiness really be just as simple as changing my beliefs?What’s up you guys? Welcome to the Therapy Brothers podcast. I’m Brandon. I’m Tyler. We’re brothers.We’re therapists. We’re not afraid of your questions. So bring it.[Music]Do you feel like no matter how much therapy you do, things really aren’tgetting better? That you’d like to accelerate your feelings of peace andempowerment because it’s just not happening as a man. Do you feel stuck?Do you lack purpose? Do you not know what real masculinity is? Are you unableto create safety and passion and intimacy in your relationships? Are you lacking connection to God? If you’rerelating to any of these things, then you need to come to our Rising Sun Conference. Tyler and I have developed aprocess and an experience for men to shift into their power, to know who theytruly are, to experience their purpose, and learn how to connect to God. So goto risingssonconference.com. Now that’s rising sun as insenconference.com and sign up there as soon as you can because space is limited. We’ll see youthere. What’s going on you guys? I’m Tyler, your wandering therapist, and I’m on my own again today. Uh Brandon islike the world’s best dad. I guess he’s taking his boys out to a baseball gamein Atlanta, so he’s out of town and not available today. So, I am the lone manhere. Um, but I’m excited to be with you guys today. And this is a good question. We’re going to talk a little bit about beliefs today. Um, before we jump intoany of that, I just want to start with our review for the day. This one justactually came through just yesterday. So, it says, it’s short. It says, “I’llbe back for more. This is my new favorite podcast to binge. It’s a safe space for much needed conversations tohappen. Uh thank you for the feedback. Uh we appreciate that feedback. That’s actually something that we’ve beenhearing from other people who haven’t necessarily gotten on and written these reviews, but some of the feedback thatwe’ve been getting from other places is that um people are grateful that we’rewilling to have some discussions that sometimes aren’t they don’t totally sitwell with everybody, but they’re open to at least allowing us to do some thinking. And um and hopefully todaywill be no different. Hopefully we’ll have a little bit of a nice discussion here. Got a good question that we’regoing to get into. Uh I wanted to just kind of start by asking you guys to think about the idea of what a beliefis. Um what what that even is. Uh but before we do that, I’m going to read a question. It says,”My therapist keeps telling me that if I just change my beliefs about myself that everything would get better.”They make it sound so simple, but it’s not. Do you believe this is true? And do andif you do, how do I change my beliefs? So, I’m guessing with this question,you’re asking about maybe beliefs about yourself or beliefs about your spouse, beliefs about your relationships. Iguess it could be a number of different things that you’re wanting to change. But I think at the core of the questionis do we do we we pause to consider the actualpower of belief itself in the process of being able to change and find joy and happiness in our lives.And I think that’s a worthy question to talk about. It’s a worthy topic to talk about. I think it’s something that we wesort of like just have happen naturally inside of ourselves all the time to the point that we never actually reallyum sometimes stop to consider the beliefs that we live by that drive ourlives and whether or not they have a certain impact in our livesin producing outcomes that we either want or don’t want. So we’re going totalk a little bit about belief first. I want to just kind of share uh a quote here.It’s uh came comes from Tony Robbins material, but it’s something to at least kick it off and start thinking about. Itsays, “What is a belief? It’s a feeling of certainty about what something means.Beliefs create the maps that guide us towards our goals and give us the power to take action. The challenge is thatmost of our beliefs are generalizations about our past based on our interpretations of painful andpleasurable experiences. Often we are unconscious about what we believe and how those beliefs affect ouractions. Our limiting beliefs can cause us to miss out on the things that we want most and our empowering beliefs candrive us towards the life that we want to live. So uh a good place to start is to isjust pause and say number one all of us have beliefs. All of us if we stop to pause to think about some things canprobably pull out some of our beliefs whether that’s in any realm of lifeabout the way we want to parent our children or our religious beliefs or our beliefs about ourselves our beliefsabout humankind our political beliefs. All of these things are things that goon inside of us. They actually almost become part of us. In fact, that’s kindof what that definition is saying to the point that we are unconscious about whatwe believe. So, here’s the rub and here’s the trick. I think you guys is ifif our beliefs are part of who we are to the point that we’re sometimes unconscious of those beliefs, you cansee how it can quickly become a problem when you have something going on in your life and you want it to be different andyou don’t know how to make the change because often we’re trying to make the change at a surface level without everconsidering the baseline autopilot level of what our beliefs are telling us.I’ll give you a couple of examples of this in my own life for a second. This is something that I’ve been wrestlingwith for a really long time. We’ve talked about the fixed mindset and the growth mindset on other podcasts. Well, the fixed mindset says that if that thatif I fail at something, that means I’m a failure, which means I better not tryanymore. Whereas the growth mindset says I believe that the way to grow is to getmyself in the arena and to go mess up on stuff and when I mess up on stuff I’lllearn and when I learn then I’ll grow and when I grow I’ll get better and thenI can go make more mistakes and do more learning and do more growing. Inherently there’s a belief system in each the fixand the growth mindset. I grew up with more of a fixed mindset. I wasdeathly afraid of failure. I was deathly afraid of letting people down. I wasdeathly afraid of being seen as less than or as weak or as not good enough.And that fueled more beliefs. And some of my beliefs that I didn’t even realize that I was developingwere things like my value as a human beingis hinged upon my ability to perform. So I always had to be perfect. I alwayshad a high high standard for myself that I could never mess up. And in doing so,that that belief actually fueled, I think, some mental and emotional health problems for me because at the end ofthe day, I was playing in a game where my natural default setting of needing tobe perfect was actually unattainable for the world that we live in. And becauseit was unattainable, I was always disappointed. And I never felt like I measured up. Even though I was accomplishing some really good things inmy life, they never were enough, which made me never enough, which meant thatmy state of being, my way of being was never going to be as happy or as contentor as joyful as it could be because I couldn’t stop and pause and enjoy the journey that I was on and the thingsthat I was accomplishing for what they were. So this kind of goes into the question for the day is if I could have changedthose beliefs, it’s likely that I would have suffered less instantly simply inchoosing to be conscious enough about my belief system to ask whether or not Ireally needed to believe those things. And in the later years, I’ve kind of started to peel apart these things. Wecall them false agreements. And these false agreements are beliefsthat are so ingrained in us that we don’t even realize that they’re beliefs until we stop and we have maybesometimes them hit they hit us upside the head or they um they kind of kind ofrise to the surface through some life experiences and then you go, “Oh wow, I’ve been living this way without everrealizing I was living this way. I have in a sense been totally unconscious.Um, makes me think of the lyrics to the NF song, Wake Up. You know that so manyof us are just kind of going through our day-to-day lives unconscious of thedriving forces that are yielding most of the results in our lives and uh and andmaybe that it’s time to to start to wake up. So, let’s talk a little bit about the power of belief. I want to share afew examples of the power of belief. And the first one I want to talk about with you guys isuh this idea of beliefs about stress.So Kelly McGonagle, actually there’s a TED talk you can go watch from Kelly Monogle called How to Make Stress YourFriend. Um but she references a a study that was done on stress by 30,000adults. So this is a massive sample size uh for a study. And in this study, partof that the study was to ask questions about stressful events in people’s lives. And then they would measure thedata for uh for who died in the in the next year after filling out thisquestionnaire and who died related to stress related things.What they found is that if people had really really stressful lives, if theyhad a whole bunch of different stressful things going on in their lives, about 43% of they had a 43% increase of dyingin the next year compared to what the normal odds would be, but onlyif you believed stress was bad for you. So for people who had highly stressfulthings going on in their lives in the last year and who didn’t believe stresswas bad, they had no change in the probability ofdying in the upcoming year. But if you had a highly stressful year and youbelieved that that stress was bad for you, your chances, your odds of dyingincreased by 43%. So she references this that this ispotentially the 15th highest killer for us as Americansis not stress but the belief that stress is bad.Think about the power of that. That if I have a massively stressful life and I happen to not believe that stress is badbut I happen to believe that stress is just a part of life and that it happens when these kinds of things go on in my life. I have no change in the risk of myhealth being bad or of losing my life. But if I have the same year and I believe stress is bad, I’m actuallysetting myself up for an increased a significantly increased risk of dying.Um, powerful stuff to think about. It’s not the stressful event itself. It’s thebelief about the stress. So, how does this work with then us as human beings? Because I think this iskind of an insightful thing that most of us as human beings we are engaged in thebusiness of trying to survive. That’s part of what’s right there right thereat the brain stem. It’s always on quue like looking for ways to make sure that we’re surviving. And that means in ourrelationships that means you know not getting hit by a bus when you step off the curb. That means making sure you’reaware when you’re driving. All of those things the brain is constantly looking for ways to survive. And one of the waysthat the brain survives and this is built into us is that when we have anegative experience, of course, there’s painful emotions that get elicited inthat negative experience. And those painful emotions are there to ceue up in some ways ourneed to survive and our need to cope and our and usually those painful emotions motivates motivate us into action.So when we have negative experiences, we have emotions that kick off the need to survive and help us to get through thishard thing. And the way that we’re motivated is through painful emotions. When we have those painful emotions, thebrain is smart. And the brain says, “Oh, I’m going to start paying attention. In fact, I’m gonna because those thoseemotions are uncomfortable, I’m going to actually grow these really long antennaso that I can maybe preempt any potential risk that could come to me. Sonow I’m already establishing a belief system that the world is now no longer asafe place. I’m looking for evidence of how that’s true. And then I often findthat evidence. And when I find that evidence, I have an emotional response that reinforces the belief and Iactually have a physiological response in my body that can feel like the worstcase scenario is already happening. This is the power of our brains. Our brainscan have us have an experience without the actual stimuli that couldcause the experience being present. And that’s what happens with people who have trauma responses where there’s like atrigger where maybe they’ve experienced something. I I kind of give you an example of this that, you know, I Ithink I’ve referenced this in another episode, but uh I had a client who was having a hard time sleeping at night andthey were waking up with nightmares and they were being really kind of like ex really anxious and hypervigilant whenthey were going to bed at night. And um and as we kind of got to know eachother, part of what we found out is there was some trauma in this client’s life where she had been abused sexuallyas a young child kind of many times over the course of a few years. And um andshe she said that when she went to bed at night, she had similar feelings goingto bed at night now as an adult that she did when those traumatic things were happening to her as a child. And westarted to do some other treatment. We did some EMDR work and that was helpful. But she was still having this response.And after a little bit of work, what we come came to find out is thatshe had a smoke alarm in her bedroom when she was a child thathad a red blinking light. And when she was being abused, when shewould dissociate, when she would check out in order to survive, she would focuson the red blinking light. And then she would kind of numb out and her body would numb out. And then she would kindof get through and survive the abuse that she was experiencing by focusing on that red blinking light.Well, now as an adult, on her nightstand, right next to her face is analarm clock with red blinking lights. So, her brain, without even realizingit, is picking up on that stimuli, on that red blinking light, and saying,”Danger, danger, danger. Something’s not right here.” and her body isexperiencing the same emotions as what had happenedin her past trauma. In essence, her body is reenactingthe very trauma that she experienced as a child. And it all came from the factthat her brain without being conscious of it was picking up on the red blinkinglights and her body was then going into the place of saying, “Wow, this is dangerous. stay awake, stayhypervigilant. And then she wasn’t sleeping and she was tired. And then of course life gets hard when you’re notsleeping and you’re tired and then you’re always on high alert and you’re getting that cortisol dump that comes from the stress response. And when thatcortisol dump is happening and there’s not any time to like get recovery, that’s when we believe start to believethings are bad about stress and we end up then having all these problems that come with stress. So the body ispowerful that way. And I want to just kind of illustrate this with an exercise for you guys listening if you have a chance. I know you might be working ornot be able to do this, but for those who can just take a minute. We’ll just do a 60-second thing here. And the morethat you can get into the details of it, the more you’ll start to see how this works. So, find a spot, sit down for asecond. If you’re in your car, pull over, whatever. Um, and just stop andsit for a minute and take a couple of really deep breaths. Maybe even closeyour eyes if you can. And when you take those deep breaths,start to just go a little deeper with each breath so that you can notice that maybe your breathing is shallow up inyour chest. Make it a little deeper. You want to be able to have your bellybutton move up and down by about two inches as you breathe. Nice full deepbreaths. And now bring your attention and focusonto an image where you’re standing in a kitchen.And while you’re standing in that kitchen, you could look around and take in thesurroundings. Notice the color of the countertops and the patterns in the countertops, what material they’re madeout of. You might notice what the floor is made of and the colors and patterns in the floor and look around and see theappliances and what they look like.And then as you look across the room, you can see on the countertop that there’s a bowl of fruit.Imagine just walking over to the bowl of fruit. And inside the bowl of fruit, amongst what other other fruits arethere, you notice all the different colors, there happens to be a lemon.And imagine reaching in and pulling the lemon out of the bowl of fruit and feeling the texture of it in your fingertips, the temperature of it.You can feel the flesh of the lemon in your fingers. You might even hold it up and look at itand notice that your lemon has little slight differences incolor, the shape of it, even the specific dimples in the lemon.Then imagine walking over to the countertop and grabbing a knife and just slicing thelemon in half. And you can kind of feel the pressure of the knife going through the lemon.Picking up half of the lemon. Just put it up close to your nose. Inhaling and smelling it. Noticing what your body isdoing. Notice what your mouth and the back of your throat are doing.Imagine squeezing the lemon and seeing the juice kind of move and burst and fall. and even maybe run down yourelbow. And just notice what the physical sensations in your body are as youimagine squeezing and smelling this lemon that you just cut.Now, if you were able to take yourself there, if you were able to actually get intothat room and imagine being in that room and feel the countertops and see the patterns and grab the lemon, there’s apretty good chance that when you got the lemon close to you or when you cut the lemon that your mouth watered,that you felt that kind of like sour sensation in the back of your jaw where most of us feel that sour sensation.There’s a pretty good chance that if you’re feeling that right now, what you were able to do is you were able to let your brain go to that place, be in thatroom, and have that experience. And yet, you might be in your car or at work or somewhere else.And yet, your body is giving that response. That’s the power of our brain. That’swhat our brains can do for us is is that it can elicit a response in us simply bywhat we think about. So if we take that and we broaden thatconcept, we start to look at this question now that says if you just changed how you viewedthings, things would be a lot better in your life. I think I I think I’ve probablysaid those things to people before in therapy. And I know it comes across as like condescending and you know, justchange your beliefs and everything’s going to be good. The simple truth is this, you guys. Like, I’m in the process of trying to change things myself. I I’mrecognizing right now in my life currently that there are certain beliefs that I’ve harbored that I didn’t evenrealize I was harboring that have caused me to have some repet repetitive things happen in my life. So, one example ofthat is like my financial stuff. I’ve learned a certain way about how to handle finances. And a lot of the waysthat I’ve learned have been good for me. They’ve they’ve taught me to be responsible. They’ve taught me to try tosave, to try to stay out of debt, yada yada yada. I’m also in a world with a lot offriends who treat finances differently than I do. And if I’m being honest withmyself, some of the ways that they think about and believe about and handle their moneyare yielding the same results that I’ve been wanting to yield my whole life and have never produced.And so I’ve got to be willing to question my beliefsenough to be curious enough to see if there’s a different way to look at things that might be able to produce theoutcomes that I’m looking for that I to this day haven’t been able to achieve. And yet I see people around me achievingthose same outcomes. So I have to go into myself and be curious with myselfand say what’s going on here? What are the what are the potential beliefs that I currently have that might be limitingmy ability to be successful? And one of the best ways that I can do that is I can go to the people that aremanifesting the things that I want and be curious with how they see the worldwith how they believe about money. Or maybe it’s somebody with relationships.Had a really good friend who kind of worked himself into a place where he was just totally suicidal. he’d become justtotally just enveloped in self-hatred, uh, addictions of many forms. Um, justsome nihilism, like just just kind of hating himself. He got to the point where he was down in the bottom of thepit of this tunnel and the only way that he could see that could be good for anyone, including himself, was for hisown life to end. He was suicidal. He felt like he had no purpose in life.and he wanted a way out. And as he got to that very bottom of the pit where lifefelt totally hopeless and there was no other way to see things for him, that tunnel got really, really tight. He hada he had a moment where he thought to himself, “I’m so miserable,but I know that there’s people in my own life that are happy.” And for whatever reason, he didn’tfollow through on hurting himself. And the next day, he went and wrote down alist of all the people that he thought were happy. And then he went and interviewed each ofthose people that he thought were happy. And then he cross-referenced all of their answers as to why they thoughtthey were happy. And in interviewing five or six of his closest friends and family,there started to emerge some themes and patterns. And those themes and patterns were things like self-care. They werethings like finding and being engaged in a healthy cause. They were things likehaving strong beliefs and a higher power and and living a life that was gearedtowards service and purpose. And when that those themes started to come out,he decided that he was going to go spend time with the people that he knew were happy. And he was going to live morelike them and test their beliefs. And in doing so, over the course of the nextfive or six years, he’s got what I would consider one of the most wholehearted lives that I know. He’s a personal heroto me now. And it’s all come as a result of his willingness to questionhis beliefs because he was tired of getting the outcomes that he was getting. So most of us have internalbeliefs that would probably border on the the line of being abusive toourselves with the way we think about ourselves. Most of us are critical. We’re not goodenough. We need to lose weight. We’re not rich enough. we’re we’re never going to measure up as ahusband or a father, as a wife or as a mother. We’re never going to measure up. And then we try to use those negativebeliefs to motivate ourselves to get better only to find ourselves back inthe same spot of believing and re and and sometimes unconsciously believing that we’re never going to be enough.And then we’re surprised when we produce the feeling of never being enough because we’re constantly lettingourselves down. But what if we with curious eyes said,”I’m gonna I’m going to consider that maybe I don’t have to believe the waythat I believe or the things that I believe about myself. What if it was possible for me to evenidentify that maybe I am believing those bad things about myself, but that I canconsider that there might be other options for belief that could be just astrue or truer. And if I can find those places,my example from earlier, the way that I’m going to be worthy of love is by performing. Does that have to be true?Well, what’s it producing? Actually, it’s producing misery to the point of almost being suicidal in high schoolbecause I felt so much pressure. But what if I were to pause and say, do I have to believe that? Is theresomething else that I could believe that would produce a different thing for me?Well, I don’t know if I believe it yet, but maybe if I believe that I’m actually worthy of love because I’m a human beingand I’m a miracle because I’m breathing right now and I’m a work in progress and I get a chance to go into this world andmake mistakes and learn and grow. If I believed that, what could itpossibly produce in my life? Well, I know that if I believed it, I’dhave permission to go and make decisions without fear. I’d be able to go andexperience pain as a result of my mistakes and use that pain to grow.So maybe it’s worth considering that maybe I should be planting that new belief in me because it’s going topotentially yield a better result for me than the one that I’m currently living. So how do you do that? You get curiousfirst. You get curious with what are the things that might be holding me back. What are the repetitive patterns in mylife that I don’t like that I seem to be a victim of that maybe the way that I’mviewing them is causing me the problem? Maybe it’s a relationship with God. Godabandon me. God doesn’t love me. God punishes me. God uses me. Um I’m alwaysthe I’m always the butt end of of God’s actions. Okay. What’s that producing for you?probably some misery, feelings of abandonment, confusion, frustration, bitterness, anger. Is there somethingelse that you could believe that might be just as true or truer that could produce a different result?God wants me to grow. God loves me. And despite the fact that I have a ton ofpain and that things are happening in my life, these are opportunities for God toaccess my heart and that I’m actually in the process of becoming something more.I know some of you guys right now are listening like, Tyler, you’re full of crap. It’s like, well, that might be true. I’m not saying it is true, butit’s possible that that belief could be just as true or truer. And if we follow the line of thinking down the road alittle bit further, would I rather have the outcomes of believing that I’m a work in progress and that pain’s part oflife and that God loves me even though I’m in a lot of pain? Does that producesomething better for me than I’m abandoned, I’m unlovable, and uh God doesn’t really care about me?The outcome is likely a lot better with the the first option. That’s all. So ifit’s if the outcome is likely a lot better with first option, it’s at least worth considering that maybe I couldbelieve those things. And if I don’t feel like I can right now, then you start with the may I statement. May Ibelieve blank that God is loving me through my challenges. May I believethat I’m a work in progress. May I believe that pain and suffering are part of lifein order to be able to grow. Whatever you want. May I believe blank. May Ibelieve that I’m a force for good in the world. May I believe that I’m worthy of love without having to perform?May I believe this? Spend some time with yourself in the may I place. Be curious. When you find that belief, question it.Ask if it needs to be true and if there’s something else that could be just as true or true that could produce a better outcome. And then plug in themayi with a new belief and test it for a while. When I say tested, I mean spend some time talking to yourself, spendsome time in your meditation, spend some time in the mirror practicing the may Ibelief with the new belief. So, um, one final story here with the power of belief and it’s going to soundstupid, but it’s it’s one that I I’ve kind of thought about in my own life many times. When I was in high school,we had a soccer team in our high school team that when I was a freshman, we hadbeen perennially terrible, like the worst team in our region for multiple years. Like it waskind of a laughing stop to be on the soccer team at our high school. And uh my sophomore year they changed coachesand coach Brock uh Brock Barros he’s probably not listening but if you areBrock thank you so much for everything that you’ve done for me. I I you’ve been a great influence in my life and one ofthe things that you taught me was this very concept that Brock got hired and he called a team meeting and all the kidsshowed up. I was a sophomore at the time and he introduced himself and said, “Hey, I’ll be leading the team now andthis is how we’re going to train. this is what our philosophy is going to be. And then he handed out his he handed outhis resume to all the kids on the team. And on his resume, he had played semi-pro soccer. He had played collegesoccer. He had coached other places. His life had pretty much been dedicated to soccer. And then down at the verybottom, the very last thing on the resume in big bold letters said, andthis is going to date me, but it said 1994, high school state champion.And uh we all kind of like laughed at it and he said, “That’s what we’re doing. That’s what we’re going to do.” And weended up playing that season. And to be honest with you, we were probably the fourth best team in our region. But we didn’t know it. We won enough games. Weworked really hard. We followed the plan. We didn’t know. We limped ourselves into the kind of the stateplayoffs, but none of us knew that we limped our way in. We just knew that we were in. And um over the course of thenext three games, I think largely because of the belief system that not only a coach had plantedin the kids, but that the kids had decided to believe, we ended up taking a state championship. We went from beingthe worst team in our region for multiple years to a state championshipand then that turned into a state runner up the next year and then a state championship the year after that.And simply by believing and then going to work on that belief,the entire program was changed. Um, that’s a powerful thought to me thatthe power of belief could shift because the kids on the team didn’t really change.Nothing changed except for a coach that was serious about believing.So, I’m going to leave you with this one last thought here. It’s something that most of you guys have heard before, but I think it’s worth reading and I thinkit can be motivational. It says, “If you think you’re beaten, you are. Ifyou think you dare not, you don’t. If you like to win, but think you can’t,it’s almost certain you won’t. If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost.For out in the world, we find success begins with a fellow’s will. It’s all in the state of mind. If you think you’reoutclassed, you are. You’ve got to think high to rise. You got to be sure of yourself before youcan ever win the prize. Life’s battles don’t always go to the stronger or faster man. But soon orlate, the man who wins is the man who thinks he can.Food for thought. You guys consider your own beliefs. Consider the things that are manifesting in your life right nowthat you might not like and have the courage to question how your own view ofthose things might be perpetuating the problem. And if you find something, consider that there might be anotheroption. And if that other option leads to a potential better outcome, spendsome time thinking about and entertaining that other option. Hope this is helpful you guys. Uh we loveyour ratings and reviews. If this is helpful, please spread it to other people. And you guys have an awesome week.[Applause] Heat.[Music][Applause] [Music] Heat. [Music]